SARS - Coping with the fear of
the unknown
It is hard to know what to
believe. Every time we turn on the radio or television there is another warning:
warning about travelling, warning about the latest medical or food test results, warning about bacteria in
the water, pesticides in the food, crime rates, terrorism and new diseases.
Life is challenging. We work
hard to keep up with our jobs, raise our families well and provide comfortable homes. We
struggle to protect our children from negative influences. All it takes is one
scary thing to tip the balance. After a long winter of economic uncertainty,
bitterly cold weather and a war many don’t understand, the SARS scare can be the
straw that breaks the camel’s
back.
Many people are coming into my
office with escalating fears. In some cases these fears are leading to anxiety
attacks and panic disorder. The more frightened people are the less they think rationally. When people can’t
think rationally, they don’t live well. Fear is not an emotion conducive to
healthy living. Fear breeds more fear and becomes a vicious cycle. The potential
for disaster is great.
Each and every individual needs
to be proactive and responsible for themselves and their loved ones.
Feeling powerless by events that
are beyond our control can be paralysing. It can lead to despair and
hopelessness. The secret to feeling better is to gain back control. Talking to
loved ones and sharing concerns is
a way to stay grounded. Remember “
a burden shared is a burden halved”. Nothing is worse than living in
isolation.
We need to act more and
worry less. There are good sources of reliable information around us.
Check them out if you are not sure you are getting good advice or good
information from the television. Watching the same thing over and over again can
make it seem much bigger than it really is. Several websites are available: By
checking into the Canadian government website at http://www.cmaj.ca/ you will find
links to updates on SARS and also
links to information and guidelines from the World Health Organization
and the Centre for Disease Control. The phone number for information for the
public in Canada is 1-800-454-8302. None of us have to be victims of the
media.
Acting on our fears by getting
good information is a way of taking control. Making conscious decisions about
how we are going to respond is another. Health authorities are taking steps to protect the public as new
information comes to light. Every day new discoveries are being made. Decide
what you need to do for yourself within your own comfort levels. If staying away
from Toronto or cancelling travel plans works for you, do it. A TV announcer
reminded us last week that a driver is 500 times more likely to get into a car
accident in Toronto than to contract SARS there. I, personally, recently made the decision
to go to Toronto and enjoy my day.
Much of our pain is caused by worrying about things
that have happened in our past or that might happen in our future. If you have
no reason to feel in danger of getting a contagious
disease, then make a conscious decision to put it out of your mind and
get on with your life. Unless you
have been in close contact with a person carrying the virus, your chances of
contracting the illness are unlikely.
We are like little children in
the dark. We don’t know what is out there. We need to treat ourselves like the
children we so easily comfort. Put
real dangers into perspective. Trust the people in charge to act
responsibly and keep us informed. Drink warm milk and get enough sleep. Eat well
and exercise well. Wash your hands often.
Keep perspective. Curl up with a good video and teddy bear when you feel
tired or frightened. In truth, these are frightening
times.
Normally, we do not walk around
afraid of getting pneumonia, the flu,
chicken pox and measles though we take sensible precautions. A recent article in the Herald Tribune
by Philip Bowring, Is Fear Spreading Faster than SARS, reminds us that the
mortality rate of around 4 % for SARS is the same as that of pneumonia.
If you are experiencing extreme
fear reactions or symptoms of anxiety attacks (heart palpitations, sweating,
trembling, shaking, sensations of shortness of breath, feeling of choking, chest
pain, dizziness etc) call your EAP counsellor. It always helps to talk to
someone.